Excellent commentary - I called it a firehose of lies but it was abusive. I realized last night on July 4 that PRESIDENT BIDEN should have just walked off the stage and perhaps said
“Fuck this shit” on his way off. He had just come back back from very successfully representing our country at the NATO and G7 - including the Celebration of D-Day - only to be hit with this bullshit from a clown who refused to visit our veterans graves in Normandy because he didn’t want to mess up his hair.
I have suffered domestic abuse and had to deal with multiple malignant narcissists. They are evil walking. Nothing but gaslighting liars. There is no way to argue with them because all they do is lie.
The best way to handle them is to walk away and leave them to spew their vileness.
President Biden is an honest, honorable person - most honest, honorable people don’t know how to handle evil like that in a non-combat situation. In combat - just shoot it.
Interesting to read this now, because as soon as the debate was over, I looked at my friend and said, ‘This is how it was in my marriage. Me telling the truth albeit meekly and shakily, and being met with a gaslighting angry force who didn’t like having his sh*t called out.’ I couldn’t shake the feeling. It was awful. Thanks for articulating that we were all experiencing domestic abuse watching it.
Glad the metaphor was helpful. I’ve seen quite a few versions of this as a couples therapist, and have enough professional experience to know that you can’t do couples therapy (or any other effective conversation or sharing of ideas) when there’s active domestic abuse. Especially of the intimate terrorism variety.
It was hard to define though. He never beat me or called me names. He just had these blow ups that were really scary to me and really angered me when he did it in front of our kids. I lost love and respect for him and couldn’t wait to get away. My parents never fought in front of us but his parents were super volatile and they also beat him as a child.
I couldn't watch after 15 minutes. Had to leave the room and go somewhere quiet and dim. Now I comprehend *why* I had to. All the abuse from my 1st husband came back. 30 years later, and I'm still recovering. But, I *am* recovering! I won't give him or djt that power ever again.
I didn’t blame him for lack of prep, if anything too much! Nobody can prep for a crazed bully. I just believe he is frail and should pass the torch. Y’all think he should keep runnin’ with it all the way to Paris!
The point of our article is that from our perspective, evaluating the "debate" from the perspective of a sign that Biden's entering early dementia is nonsense. In fact, we saw quite a few Republican nominees respond to a Trump "debate" in a similar way that Biden did two weeks ago, and those folks were in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. A trauma-informed lens (domestic abuse is the window that we use) is much more appropriate.
I agree. Some health official, referred to it as “clinical frailty”. He’s going to have to suffer a lot more! There is a term going around referring to rabid Biden followers as the Bidenistas. Flashier than sycophant or cultist. I do wish him the best tho!
Excellent commentary - I called it a firehose of lies but it was abusive. I realized last night on July 4 that PRESIDENT BIDEN should have just walked off the stage and perhaps said
“Fuck this shit” on his way off. He had just come back back from very successfully representing our country at the NATO and G7 - including the Celebration of D-Day - only to be hit with this bullshit from a clown who refused to visit our veterans graves in Normandy because he didn’t want to mess up his hair.
I have suffered domestic abuse and had to deal with multiple malignant narcissists. They are evil walking. Nothing but gaslighting liars. There is no way to argue with them because all they do is lie.
The best way to handle them is to walk away and leave them to spew their vileness.
President Biden is an honest, honorable person - most honest, honorable people don’t know how to handle evil like that in a non-combat situation. In combat - just shoot it.
Thanks for the feedback!
Interesting to read this now, because as soon as the debate was over, I looked at my friend and said, ‘This is how it was in my marriage. Me telling the truth albeit meekly and shakily, and being met with a gaslighting angry force who didn’t like having his sh*t called out.’ I couldn’t shake the feeling. It was awful. Thanks for articulating that we were all experiencing domestic abuse watching it.
Glad the metaphor was helpful. I’ve seen quite a few versions of this as a couples therapist, and have enough professional experience to know that you can’t do couples therapy (or any other effective conversation or sharing of ideas) when there’s active domestic abuse. Especially of the intimate terrorism variety.
It was hard to define though. He never beat me or called me names. He just had these blow ups that were really scary to me and really angered me when he did it in front of our kids. I lost love and respect for him and couldn’t wait to get away. My parents never fought in front of us but his parents were super volatile and they also beat him as a child.
I viewed it as between a WWF wrestler screaming like a maniac and a decent human being in the ring. That’s why I didn’t watch
I couldn't watch after 15 minutes. Had to leave the room and go somewhere quiet and dim. Now I comprehend *why* I had to. All the abuse from my 1st husband came back. 30 years later, and I'm still recovering. But, I *am* recovering! I won't give him or djt that power ever again.
Agree with the abuse situation. Was telling people that President Biden acted like he was in shock.
He was. It’s the way I acted when word abuse happened to me…
I didn’t blame him for lack of prep, if anything too much! Nobody can prep for a crazed bully. I just believe he is frail and should pass the torch. Y’all think he should keep runnin’ with it all the way to Paris!
That's a fair view to take.
The point of our article is that from our perspective, evaluating the "debate" from the perspective of a sign that Biden's entering early dementia is nonsense. In fact, we saw quite a few Republican nominees respond to a Trump "debate" in a similar way that Biden did two weeks ago, and those folks were in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. A trauma-informed lens (domestic abuse is the window that we use) is much more appropriate.
I agree. Some health official, referred to it as “clinical frailty”. He’s going to have to suffer a lot more! There is a term going around referring to rabid Biden followers as the Bidenistas. Flashier than sycophant or cultist. I do wish him the best tho!